Because we planned to have a small wedding and because we wanted to choose a place with special personal significance for both of us, we spoke about the possibility of having the wedding in Fort Atkinson, a nearby community that was important to us because it had been the home of Lorine Niedecker, a favorite poet, and the site of the poetry festival where we had reconnected at the beginning of our courtship (more about that story<\/a>, if you’re interested). I contacted Ann Engelman, the president of the Friends of Lorine Niedecker, and asked her whether it would be possible for us to hold our wedding ceremony outdoors at the site of Niedecker’s cabin on Blackhawk Island, which is now privately owned. Ann suggested that we write the cabin’s current\u00a0owners to tell them a little about ourselves and our story, which we did, and told us that she’d check in with the owners, which she did. About a week later, Ann emailed to let us know that the owners had given their permission to use the site for a small wedding ceremony and that she’d also checked in with the sheriff’s office about parking–and as far as she could see we could proceed with planning our wedding ceremony at the Niedecker cabin. Everyone was pretty excited, especially because as far as anyone knew would be the first time Lorine’s cabin would host a wedding. Here’s a photo of what the site looks like:<\/p>\n As you can see, it’s not particularly magical, but it was a place of special significance for us, and we thought that it would probably have been pleasant enough by April 21. We would have set up three dozen chairs in a semi circle near the cabin and had our officiant stand up near the three small trees visible just in front of the small shed. The biggest concern we had about using this site as our wedding location had to do with weather–we needed a site that offered some shelter and control of the elements in case it was particularly cold or rainy. Initially we reserved a large shelter in Dorothy Cairnes Park<\/a>, a large (514 acre) conservation park just outside of Fort Atkinson in Jefferson County–which incidentally, is gorgeous and would be a great spot for a wedding as well as being just a beautiful place for a day trip or nature trek (see image below). A few months before the wedding, however, we checked on the availability of the Gates of Heaven building in James Madison Park in Madison and discovered that a two-hour weekend rental for the building would cost just $110.<\/p>\n Gates of Heaven was available on the morning or April 21st, so we reserved the building from 11 AM – 1 PM. Initially, I was a little concerned about the reservation, because the rental costs also lists what is described as a “wedding package” \u00a0for $500 (the package includes 2 hours of rehearsal time, 4 hours use of the facility on the day of the wedding and a park attendant for the 4 hours on the day of the wedding). We had no need of the extra features (or the extra costs) of the wedding package, but I was a little nervous about making the reservation, since several venues had previously refused to rent their spaces to me for shorter times and lesser rates once they knew the event was a wedding–many potential venues insisted that I had to rent their wedding package, even if another package seemed \u00a0like a better fit for our needs. Because Gates of Heaven was going to be our backup location, I was a little dishonest when they asked me what the reservation was for–I said it was going to be for a “family gathering”–which while technically true, also led the woman taking the reservation to believe that we’d be having a family reunion, not a wedding. As it turns out, I needn’t have worried–the people I talked to at the City Parks Department Office were very cool, and none of them seemed to mind at all that we were planning to use the building for a wedding ceremony (and not a family reunion) during our 2 hour reservation, and at no point did anyone even attempt to upsell me to the $500 DELUXE WEDDING PACKAGE, for which I was really grateful.<\/p>\n The weekend before the wedding was scheduled, Laurel and I traveled out to Fort Atkinson, where we met our officiant (Jen Gilmour, one of Laurel’s oldest friends) who came in from Milwaukee and together the three of us scoped out the location at the Niedecker cabin and tried to visualize what we’d do for the wedding. The weather was a little grey, the ground was a bit soggy, and the current owners of the cabin were doing construction on another building closer to the water, which meant that the site was a little less appealing to the eyes–all reasons for slight concern. We left Fort Atkinson that afternoon a little unsure about the location–on the one hand, it really would have meant a lot to me to marry Laurel at Niedecker’s cabin, but on the other hand, it would be more of a headache logistically getting our guests out to a slightly difficulty to find location in Fort Atkinson, where we’d be at the mercy of the weather, which would only add to our stress since it meant that we might be forced to call the wedding at the last minute and change locations. Laurel and I talked it over and slept on the decision, and then decided early in the week leading up to the wedding that as much as we loved the Niedecker cabin and its importance in our own story, it would be easier all around to hold the wedding at Gates of Heaven. We contacted our guests early that week to let them know about the venue change, and went ahead with our back-up plan.<\/p>\n As it turned out, the weather on the 21st was gorgeous (despite what had been forecast earlier that week), which meant that an outdoor ceremony at the Niedecker cabin probably would have been lovely, though Gates of Heaven turned out to be such a fantastic location that we didn’t regret changing the venue in the least. In terms of cost, beauty, size, ease of rental\/use, and location I can’t think of any venue in Madison that could possibly be better suited for a small non-denominational wedding. The interior of the building was spacious, full of natural light, simply adorned, and entirely tasteful. The building also features a small balcony at the rear which can hold overflow guests but also lends itself well as a place from which photographs can be taken or video can be filmed.<\/p>\n There were roughly 25 parking spots behind the building, which was far more than we needed, and the two hour rental gave us more than enough time (especially since no one was using the building before or after us–in fact, I had received a key to the building a few days before the wedding, so I could have even gone to set up chairs the night before after the last event had completed if I had wanted to). \u00a0Our ceremony itself took less than 25 minutes from the time that we approached the altar to the time we walked out of the building as a married couple, leaving us with plenty of time for set up before the wedding and lots of hugs, laughter, and photographs after the ceremony.<\/p>\n![\"Photo](\"http:\/\/steelwagstaff.files.wordpress.com\/2012\/05\/img_0209.jpg?resize=500%2C375\" "\\"IMG_0209\\"")
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